If you’ve been with me for a while, or even if you’re new here, you’ve probably noticed that I talk a lot about the nervous system 🤭
And it’s my jam for a reason - I truly believe that a regulated nervous system is the key to a successful life in every area (and there’s a lot of science to back this up too🤓).
As I said in yesterday’s post on TikTok: the biggest flex in life is a regulated nervous system (check it out if you missed it)
And the reason I preach it is because I’ve lived it -
going from someone who was living in a constant dysregulated survival state for over a decade, from my early 20s to early 30s, with extremely poor digestion, always bloated, food intolerances, allergies, drained and exhausted after 8-9 hours of sleep, surviving my corporate job on 3-4 cups of coffee, and numbing my stress and emotional discomfort with substances -
to having a healthy gut and being able to eat what I want (in moderation, healing is a process 🥹), feeling rested after 7 hours of sleep, attuned to my emotions and needs, and feeling joy for life again 🚀
And yes, it’s not “just nervous system regulation” that got me here - there have also been lots of emotions and limiting beliefs released and rewired along the way, but none of this would have been possible without it. To do all that, I needed safety, and safety comes from a regulated nervous system.
So again, a regulated nervous system is the key to a happy, joyful, and fulfilling life.
And I’ve shared lots of ways to regulate your nervous system before, but today I want to share something that has one of the biggest impacts on your nervous system in everyday life.
And a lot of you probably won’t want to hear this 😬
Drum roll please…
It’s discipline 🚀
Just imagine this - you have a friend who keeps giving you all these promises and making plans, but always cancels, or finds excuses, and never delivers on those promises. They say one thing, but their actions don’t match.
How would that make you feel?
Would you feel safe? Would you trust them? Feel comfortable? 👀
No, you wouldn’t.
And it’s no different with yourself - when you keep telling yourself you’re going to do something, but you always break those promises, the trust is broken 🥺
And this is one of the biggest dysregulators for your nervous system that is probably going unnoticed.
When you have self-trust, it creates this deep safety in your nervous system and this inner knowing that if something happens in your life, you’re good. You have yourself. You can rely on yourself. And that keeps you regulated and not spiralling during more challenging times in life.
The good news is, it’s never too late to start rebuilding that self-trust, and with the right tools, it’s easier than you might think 🥹
My go-to, no-BS guide to rebuilding self-trust:
I am obsessed with to-do lists and planners etc. They’re great for motivation and discipline, and who doesn’t loooove the lil dopamine hit you get when ticking something off 💅
So for the next 7 days, I want you to create a to-do list every morning with a minimum of 3 things for that day, and cross them off as you go or at the end of the day (use your notes app on your phone, or write them out!)
But the key here is: make them small. Extremely doable. We’re setting ourselves up for success here, okaaaay? 🤓
It can be:
put on clothes,
go to work,
smile,
move my body,
go for a 3-minute walk,
take 3 deep breaths etc.
This is not the place for ambition, but for rebuilding trust with ourselves 🥹
So try it out and let me know how it makes you feel after 7 days!
Ohh and please don’t feel the need to stop after 7 days - it’s actually one of my daily non-negotiable habits, and I love it! (The dopamine hit is real 😏)
And as always, feel free to share your thoughts with me by hitting reply or commenting on my latest post on social media. I loooove having real conversations with you ❤️
With all my love,
Darja x
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Obsessed lately:
🎶This Youtube channel - Sounds of nature expressed as music? Yes pleaseeeee! So relaxing and healing, my go to morning sounds lately 🥹
🎧 This podcast episode - I don't know even how to describe this, I had to pause every few minutes to make notes and just observe the conversation. Truly life changing 🥹
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