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Darja Makejeva

When You change Your Inner world, Your outer world changes. Mindse + Nervous Syestem Healing 🧬🧠

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It's so sneaky, we have to step up our game

For a long time, I thought I was supposed to show up online as this picture-perfect version of myself šŸ’… To only show the side of me who had things figured out, and hide the parts where she was still finding her way. But this was a one-way ticket to burnout, because I had to use so much of my energy to do so. And not to mention what it was doing to my self-worth and confidence. (Imagine someone telling you every day that you’re not worthy as you are 🄹) And ever since learning that lesson, one...

A couple of months ago, when I was deep into my work with limiting beliefs, I came across a study that really changed the way I see life, and today I want to share it with you, in the hope that it shifts something in you as it did for me. No pressure lol 🤣 There was a study of self-identified "lucky people" and self-identified "unlucky people", and they were asked to do a very simple task: Flip through a specific newspaper and count the number of images. That’s it. Just count the number of...

As humans, we are evolutionarily wired to see the world through a slightly negative lens, also known as negativity bias, and it is an inherited survival mechanism. Our ancestors were much more likely to survive when they stayed alert to potential threats (like predators) than by focusing on pleasant and positive things. But in this day and age, we don’t really spend our days in forests and open fields scavenging for food - most of us spend our days under fluorescent lights in a stuffy office,...

If you’ve been with me for a while, or even if you’re new here, you’ve probably noticed that I talk a lot about the nervous system 🤭 And it’s my jam for a reason - I truly believe that a regulated nervous system is the key to a successful life in every area (and there’s a lot of science to back this up toošŸ¤“). As I said in yesterday’s post on TikTok: the biggest flex in life is a regulated nervous system (check it out if you missed it) And the reason I preach it is because I’ve lived it -...

One of the biggest ways I’ve learned to spot my limiting beliefs and upper limits, is by paying attention to my first thoughts around the things I want. The thoughts that come up instantly when I think about something bigger for myself. A holiday. Falling in love. Starting a business. Making more money. Moving abroad. Being more visible online. Taking a risk. Because usually, those first thoughts tell you everything you need to know about the subconscious beliefs running in the background....

I feel like there are 2 types of people in the world - people who loove and are excited about their birthdays, and people who dread them and feel an immense amount of anxiety around them. I fall into the latter 🄺 I used to LOOVE birthdays, a fact that you can gather from looking at my childhood photo albums - filled with me surrounded by my friends, laughing, rose-cheeked, happy. But somewhere along the way, things changed… We were growing up, we weren’t children anymore - and the opinions,...

There’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. It’s the way we judge our past selves. For the longest time, I used to look back at certain periods of my life and feel almost frustrated with myself. Why did I stay in situations that clearly weren’t good for me?Why did I tolerate things that I now know I deserved better than?Why did it take me so long to see certain patterns? Maybe you’ve asked yourself similar questions at some point. For me, those thoughts used to come with a lot of...

Unbecoming

I feel like we’ve been sold a version of growth that sounds good… but keeps us stuck. ā€œBecome your higher self.ā€ā€œStep into your next level.ā€ā€œAct like the version of you who already has it.ā€ And yes — I’ve said all of this too 🄹 But here’s what I keep seeing, in myself and in so many of my clients: We try to become this new version of us.We show up differently, think differently, act differently… and for a while, it works. Until we became overwhelmed by life's demands, and we unconsciously...

Hey love, I didn’t plan to write this today. I was actually supposed to just sit down and finish my PDF on limiting beliefs… but something completely different unfolded. And I feel like I need to share it with you 🄹 So this morning while journaling, I noticed something. This pattern I’ve had for years: I get an idea → I get excited → I start → and then… I procrastinate. Reels. Videos. Guides. Everything. And it builds this pressure inside of me. And I always thought I was lacking discipline,...

mind be like

Have you ever noticed how quickly you believe your own thoughts? Something pops into your mind, and before you even question it, you’ve already reacted to it šŸš€ It can be something small, like assuming someone is upset with you, or something bigger, like thinking you’re not ready for something you actually want. And in the moment, it feels very real. Very convincing. But if you pause for a second and actually look at that thought, you might realise it’s not based on what’s happening right now,...